I once heard that “comparison is the thief of joy.” This is so true… When we compare ourselves to others, it can make us feel better—especially when we compare to someone who is behind us (or as I like to say hasn’t found their lane yet), and sometimes it can make you feel worse if the person we are comparing our self to people that are ahead than us. We are all at different places on our journey. The best thing we can do is take inspiration from others we aspire to immolate and incorporate some of their practices into our own.
Have you ever tried to copy someone? It just doesn’t work. I have tried to immolate different practices that I have learned or observed from sales executives, speakers, and leaders that have inspired me, but soon figured out their approach just didn’t work for me. I learned quickly that I just needed to take some of their practices and inspiration and try to put into an action that worked for me. It’s important to always be evaluating where you are and where you want to go in your career. When you have this mindset, you will find yourself pursuing best practices for continued success in your career.
The best strategy I have heard to evaluate yourself each day comes from my brother in law, Earl Reynolds, an outstanding business leader. He once shared his approach in my “Be A Lifter Interview Series” which can add significant value when it comes to measuring or comparing our self to others—it’s called the “mirror test.”
How does it work? ,,,just look in the mirror each day and ask yourself:
- Are you better today than you were yesterday?
- Are you growing, or shrinking?
- Are you engaged or disengaged?
These are great questions to ask yourself each day. If you are not where you want to be, then make it part of your to do list to get on track – then take action. If you aren’t engaged, talk with someone about being more engaged. If you don’t feel like you are growing, go purchase a book or audible, take a certification, or sign up for a conference. You are the only one that can answer these questions… and you may be one action step away form success.
…and remember, the best ways to avoid “the comparison syndrome” is to have an attitude of gratitude. Smile and look for the positive things each day to bring joy to your career and your personal life..
Call to Action: What is the mirror telling you today? Share with someone you know. Ask for help and find your lane to get better every day!
Quote of the Week… Magic Mirror, on the wall, who, now, is the fairest one of all? (Queen in Snow White)
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