Want to be a better leader? Start with “the WHO”…

I was recently listening to a leadership podcast hosted by Craig Groeschel as he shared the importance of goal setting. Goals help us create direction in our careers and on our personal life journey. Goal setting gives us a mission or sense of purpose for the day, week, year, and longer. When we set goals, we are saying that we want to get better, and be purposeful in our actions. On this particular podcast, there was something extra that Craig shared that is actually the starting point to anyone wanting to set a goal. He shared when you want to set a goal, it’s important to start with “the who”, and it will lead to “the do”. Starting with the who is a long-term strategy that will pay big dividends in the future… Let me explain…

When I was 40 years old, I decided to make a list of “who” I wanted to be at the age of 50. Some of the list items included: Being a husband of 31 years, father of three college graduates, completed a 5k run, traveled to NYC with my wife and other cities we haven’t visited in the US, published a book, be a sales leader, presidents club recipient, being debt free, having a giving goal, fitness goals, etc… During this time, two of my children were still in high school / middle school, and one just started college, I was in year three since joining my company Armstrong Relocation and was just starting to get in a workout routine. I also included some “values” that I wanted to represent such as integrity, continuous improvement, and generosity to help me with decisions.

You see, when we start by identifying who we want to be, then we can start determining the goals that will make impact on our growth to help us get to where we want to go. When the vision is clear, choices are much easier to make in all aspects of our life.

The challenge is many people aren’t sure what they want, but if you start with the who, it will give better insight on how to approach a goal. Do you want to be a VP or CHRO? What about a Talent Acquisition or Mobility leader, or your company sales leader? Do you want to influence others as a church leader or in a non profit organization you support? …or maybe you are even considering changing careers or being a keynote speaker! The best place to start is to observe and learn from people in the field that inspires you each day and integrate some of their actions in your daily agenda. During this time, make a list of the traits and habits they have to add to your leadership DNA.

In the book, Atomic habits, the author James Clear talks about how people don’t raise to the goal, but fall to the level of the system. It’s more than just setting a goal, it’s developing a daily routine or habit to help you effectively get to the goal. When I turned 50, I had not published my book, Find Your Lane like I had noted on my “WHO list”. I just hadn’t been able to invest time and focus in the project. But since it was on my list, it pulled at me to finish because I wanted it to be part of my leadership journey so I could share the story with others. About 30 days following my 50th birthday, I decided to challenge myself to finish the manuscript, and publish over the next year. How did I do it? I had to change my systems – develop a different daily routine to get to the goal. I scheduled writing daily on my calendar. Since my time was so limited, I had to change my system by getting up earlier and becoming a member of the 5AM club? Are you a member? I also set a challenge to write every Saturday to finish the project. When you decide who you want to be, it is easier to achieve goals for success when you develop the daily routine or system with great habits… What systems do you have in place to be the WHO you want to be?

So, here are the 3 takeaways to achieve success and be a better leader?

  • Start with the who
  • Establish a goal
  • Develop a system

Are you ready to write down “WHO” you want to be in the next 10 years? I already started on my list and it includes that I traveled to all 50 states! What a journey this was….  Whats on your list? Find your lane and drive with purpose

Quote of the week:What if our real ability to be influential is in our ability to be influenced.” (Brendon Burchard)

Call to Action: Make a list of traits and experiences that express who you want to be in the future and post it somewhere for you to have access to review each year. Include career, personal, spiritual, wellness, and the passions that make you go!  …and most importantly Dream BIG! You are never to young or too old to experience something great! Let me know how it goes — I would enjoy hearing your feedback!

This has been A Relocation Minute on “start with the who” with Bruce Waller, for more information, call 972-389-5673, or email bwaller@goarmstrong.com or check out my social media Facebook and Twitter page. Also, check out www.BruceWaller.com to review my leadership book “Find Your Lane” available on amazon.

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