When I moved to Dallas, Texas in 1995, I went to work for a moving and storage company specializing in residential moving, office moving, and warehousing. I had recently graduated from college and was looking to make my mark as a young manager. After a couple of years, I was promoted to lead a small department responsible for international moving services. It was a great opportunity for my career to be in a position to lead a department while serving on the leadership team. We had some successes along the way, but I struggled early when it came to leading, communication, and team development. As I look back, I realize the problem was that I was trying to do everything myself.
One day, I was faced with a personnel challenge and was trying to figure out how to resolve. It weighed on me day after day and remember thinking about the weight it was putting on me as I tried to work through the process. Then things changed when I decided to reach out to someone for help. He didn’t tell me what to do, but equipped me with some insightful questions to consider, as well as provided me an audio tape that changed my career. It was a John Maxwell audio. It was like I had a coach with me in the front seat of my car. He knew me and what I was going through. Since then, I have tried to make a commitment to reaching out for help and helping others along the way. Leadership is hard, but can be so rewarding with the right people around you.
Mentors / Coaches come in all shapes and sizes, and I would encourage you to get connected. If you are a mentee, get a mentor! If you are a mentor, find a mentee to help. It doesn’t matter if you are a mentee or a mentor, just be one and you will both learn from each other to accelerate in your career.
Today, I want to share some ways to accelerate as a mentee, or a mentor:
- Authors… Ask people around you for book referrals and start reading. There is always an idea to apply from reading books.
- Networking Events… Ask to be introduced to people that might help you in your career or mentor you in the group. There are people waiting to be asked.
- Social media… Follow people that align with your leadership, industry and values. Get in the arena and engage with questions.
- Local Organizations… Ask to volunteer and start becoming more.
- Your company… Ask your leadership to mentor you or if they would recommend someone to mentor you for professional growth.
- Podcasts… There are millions of podcasts today. Ask people for recommendations and find one that fits you. Turn off the radio, and start learning!
- Set Who Goals… Determine who you want to be and start looking for people that model this for you in your career. The who goals will lead to the do goals.
- Define Values… Everyone should know values they want to live by. In the book, Dare to Lead, Brene Brown stresses having two values. I have three…
- Look for people to mentor in your company, or in a local organization.
- Write articles or start a blog and post regularly to help others. Everyone has a story and you never know who is waiting for your story to help them accelerate.
In 2018, I had the honor to mentor a college student in our DallasHR Mentorship program from Texas Women’s University. It was an amazing experience. We learned so much from each other. When you start focusing on the other person needs, and truly try to help them, you will accelerate in every area of your life. However, I had to take action, invest time to complete the application, and be committed to the program. This year, I have another amazing mentee from University of Texas at Dallas. She is amazing too! Being a mentee or becoming a mentor is not easy, but when you make the decision to be one, you are making a decision to accelerate in your career, and your personal life.
Find your lane and include others on your journey! It will take you places you would never have imagined.
Quote of the week:“The doors will be opened to those who are bold enough to knock.” Tony Gaskins
Call to Action: Do you need a mentor? Who are you mentoring in your company or organization? Reach out to your network and get started! It will be your best move yet!
This has been A Relocation Minute on “mentee or mentor” with Bruce Waller, for more information, call 972-389-5673, or email firstname.lastname@example.org or check out my social media Facebook and Twitter page. Also, check out www.BruceWaller.com to review my leadership book “Find Your Lane” available on amazon.